MESSED up that New Year’s resolution you made at the start of the year about wearing sunscreen every day? Perhaps you went through a bad breakup recently? Or maybe your 9-to-5 job is making you miserable?
The thing about adulting is that sometimes life does not turn out quite the way we have planned it to be. In times when you feel like you are in a slump, don’t you just wish there’s a magical reset button? But things like a magic button only exist in the realm of fiction.
As cliche as it may sound, what you can do, though, is find ways to start over. We round up some ways — suggested by life coaches and psychologists — to help you pick yourself up, begin again and start fresh in life. There’s no better time to reset than the present.
Be kind to yourself
The last thing anyone needs in times of trouble is to further beat yourself up. More recently, the movement of self-care has been increasingly on the rise. Don’t mistake this for selfishness. Being kind to yourself often means giving yourself time and space to make mistakes and learn from them. Another way you can go about this is investing in your own spiritual and mental well-being. Pick up yoga, splurge on new clothes or start a new skincare routine. Remember, the road to recovery starts with treating yourself better.
Reflect on your past
Those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it. Sounds familiar? Looking back at your past can provide insights on how you can do better in the future. Our Sejarah teacher does have a point you know …
Own your mistakes
It takes real courage to admit that you have messed up. Being brave enough to own up to your blunders provide clarity and forces you to take responsibility for your actions. So, go ahead and admit that you had too much sugar or that you went to bed with makeup on. The point is to fess up.
Talk to someone
Humans are incredibly social beings. In other words, we can always benefit from interaction with other people. Need some motivation to stick to your health goals? Then talk it out with that friend who’s a fitness junkie. Or perhaps you just need to rant out your feelings? Then hang out with your girl friends at your favourite coffee joint. If all else fails, pick up the phone and call mum. It’s scientifically proven that a mother’s voice makes one feel better.
Renew your goals … and actually do them
Jot down all your hopes, dreams and aspirations. Makes these goals as specific and measurable as possible. Examples could be: “Run twice by the end of the week”, “I will laugh at least 5 times by end of today” or even “I will drink a glass of water first thing in the morning”. Here’s a suggestion: Write these goals down on colourful Post-It notes and scatter them throughout visible areas at home or your car.